There was a saying my mother used to tell me when I was a child dealing with bullies in school.
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
Maybe it’s about the lack of spoken word to physically harm.
Maybe it’s a cautionary reminder that we don’t have to hurt because others hurt enough inside to project onto us.
It’s a reminder that the world at large can hurt.
So, don’t add to it by harming yourself with your own words.
Tell yourself 3 things you are proud of yourself for doing lately. We call those Bright Spots. Practicing gratitude sets the stage for change and progress from where you are.
Positive reinforcement like bright spots not only motivates people better than negative reinforcement, it gives direction by acknowledging what has already yielded good results and patterns. “Success leaves a trail” (breadcrumbs if you will).
Look for the breadcrumbs, they’re the bright spots”